Being the Protector of Your Kingdom

Ian Hawkins 0:02

Are you ready, ready to release internal pain, to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfilment and contribution, to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it, and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you, during this episode, please send me an email at info at the and Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this work, I love to hear the impact these conversations have, okay, let's get into it.

As a parent, I want nothing more than to make sure I'm in a place of strength for my children. And I want to make sure that they're safe, secure, that they have every possible opportunity in life, that they get all that they need to deal with any different circumstance. And that's a big part of why why right part of my purpose is to provide that for my children to provide that legacy. So that from my own example, they've got a lead to follow. And when we talk about apologies for that, when we talk about being that safe place. Sometimes you can think about it from this perspective of like needing to come with aggression, by needing to be putting up this wall, like an electrified fence around you and your family to keep them safe and protected. But it's not like that at all. Because all that does is encourage more of that thought we fight fire with fire, right, you get more fire. But if you take the oxygen out of the situation, by bringing another energy, then then you can be all the protection that you need to be. So instead of being aggressive, we're standing in our power, where the energy that we're bringing is an energy that is one of a powerful place that like a lion, right?

I'm calm on, I'm chilled. But if you come into my space, then I'm going to be predicting. And when you come with that energy, like aligned, there's no need to have any aggression at all. Because actually, the energy speaks for itself. Just how you showing up. And then from a mental perspective, how do we be that, that source of protection? So are we mentally strong? Are we showing up as distracted and worried, and, like, unfocused and all those sorts of things? Are we being protective, by being that role model of consistency, of mental strength, of discipline, of having that ability to get things done that need to get done. Because that energy is an energy that allows us to stand in our power to be present, which ultimately, the people in our family want from us and want our time. And to not be distracted, but actually be be with them. And that gives them so much strength themselves to take forward into their life. To not be detached, to not feel like or get the feeling that our children aren't really getting the best of us because we're heads away somewhere else because we're maybe writing the ups and downs of life, but instead be emotionally present, being consistent, being balanced.

That strength that allows us to be that place of protection of safety. Because ultimately what what people want from us, particularly our children is a space where they feel comfortable, where they feel safe, where they feel protected, but they feel nurtured they feel loved.

And are you coming from that place of being disconnected to the world and bunkering down so that like you know we're going to keep the big bad world away, or are you building that connection with yourself? That unity within yourself and having that unity out there and then

A world so that all the protection that you ever need is right there with you anyway, with all the people, like the world would have been back in the day, right? Everyone's in it to help their neighbours everyone's in it to, to provide safety not just for looking after their own stuff, but from that sort of place. And so it's all of these opportunities that we have the light in the dark, the ups and the downs to decide how we're going to show up the street. That street of the lawn, and it's just such a great analogy. Calmly chilled out, see over their pride. But if you come into that space, you want to come ready. Yeah. And as I've already mentioned, that means that the lion doesn't have aggression, come towards him anyway. Because everything that they need is already there.

So much of protection is an energy is what you're putting out to the world. If you're putting out fear and worry and concern. It's what you got to get back and get it mirrored right back to you. For me, when I was first starting to learn about improving myself, it was because I was sick of being an angry dad. Now what did I see out there in the world, nothing but other angry parents mirroring back my own frustrations.

Thankfully, I don't tend to see much of that anymore. I see lots of other things that are mirroring back to me what I need to address. But I'm not saying that.

So by me changing, I'm creating a place of protection, just by me changing how I show up in the world. And it's cliche, but it's so true. We start with the man of the mirror or MJ, add it right.

To what you can you do to start changing, to be more of that protector.

To be more of that place of safety of security for all the people in your world, that it starts with the things that I mentioned, physically being able to stand tall, not sort of crouched in and like you know, being all hiding away for a while but standing your strength, mentally have that clarity, emotional balance, and spiritually be able to have that connection with your community, and your connection with yourself. That brings a sense of unity to your people, to your tribe to your world.

Start with you. Take one piece of action now to change in all of those four areas, one of those four areas and watch your ability to protect to go to a whole other level. See tomorrow.

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