Ep 408 - Creating Your Personal Life GPS With Values & Priorities

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it, and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you, during this episode, please send me an email at info at the Ian Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this work, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

When you change, it can be hard to navigate the day to day. One of the things that might show up is that people that knew you a certain way, don't react well, when you start making changes to how you show up, they the version of you that they were used to and grew comfortable with is no longer there. So they're left definitely consciously concerned about how you are unconsciously it's a little bit of a brain fry, because they the rope they used to hang on to to connect with you is no longer there, and what's changed or it's not available. But when you have your own personal GPS, you can navigate these situations without the emotion. So I wonder how many of you are ultra clear on what your most important values and values from a doing perspective. So you might be able to rattle off three, four or five words. But do you know how you act out those values? So if your value is family? How do you act that out? And are you living to that value? Because when you do, and someone wants to take you to task or challenge you on how you're behaving or your reaction to certain things, it's really much so much easier to be able to say, at least in your own head. Well, am I being true to my values here? Oh, yeah, I am. And how we can then externalize that confidently is to know that what our values are and live them, but also, knowing what those life priorities are, what are your most important priorities? What order do they sit? And again, are you living there? Because when you know, your values as actions, and when you know, the order of your life priorities, then it rather than it being an emotional reaction to someone who's perhaps not dealing well with your changes, it's just a reminder in your mind that you can react and say, No, that is how things are like, it's not personal. This is this is how I've set my life up. These are these are my values. And so I do life. Now, you're not going to use that language, right? You're gonna use whatever language comes naturally to you. I've had to have these conversations with people. When they've challenged me and said, Oh, you do this, this and this. I'm like, Yeah, I do. And that's by design. It's not a fluke. And when you explain it to them, it's hard for them to argue because it's like, Ah, okay, yeah, you're putting your own health first and then you're putting your direct family as a first priority and you're really clear on that and whatever your values are, integrity, family, whatever it is growth contribution becomes really easy. Start with getting clear on what those values and life priorities are. Allows you to make decisions because you think well am I putting is this important priority for me at the moment? Think about your health. Often you say I haven't got time, all the time from my health too busy, too busy to exercise too busy to prepare good food. What you're really saying is, well, health is not a priority in my life. What about when you might haven't got enough time to spend quality time with children or my partner or with friends, what you're saying is really that those people aren't a priority in your life? It's a question of priorities. It's question of values. So get clear, have them written down and catch yourself whenever you're not living to them. Like a course correction, get yourself back on track. Not only will you be able to navigate situations so much easier, but you'll enjoy them as well.

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