Ep 433 - Holding Your Nerve When Things Are Falling Into Place

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it, and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the Ian Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this word, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

When you're on a growth journey, it can feel like things have actually got worse. It can leave you questioning whether you've made the right decision to change. It can leave you wondering what on earth is going on? What's happening. And think about maybe where you were before and thinking that maybe that was better. I want to reiterate to you that when you go on a growth journey, the challenges don't disappear. They don't necessarily get smaller, if anything, they get bigger, but you get better at dealing with them. And if something new is presenting, it's because you're ready. You're ready to face whatever this new challenges that's presented. And what if you looked at it a different way? When it feels like everything's falling apart, everything's going to pieces that you're going backwards? What if you knew that actually everything was falling into place, that certain things needed to be removed from your life. That certain people needed to go through whatever they needed to go through. To allow you to go on the journey that you're meant to go on. So it really is about holding your nerve, when it feels like everything around you is chaos. When it feels like it's that one step forward. And then five steps back sort of failing. But if you stay consistent, and you keep doing the work, and you keep growing and you keep dealing with the different challenges that come up, keep making peace with the parts of you that keep getting presented, then everything will fall into place. And you have to put a trust in something you have to build a trust that that is exactly what's happening. And being able to hold your nerve through that is what is going to set you apart from other people. It's going to allow you to navigate situations with calm with certainty with poise in a way that others will admire. Because when everything else around you seems like it's chaos. And falling apart and you can just breathe and know that it is working out is going to be one of the greatest skills you can ever have.

This is not a maybe this will happen this is this will happen you've probably already experienced it. And the faster you can learn to be at peace. And like I said hold your nerve the faster you'll be able to accelerate because when things started going a bit off track. It is the resistance that keeps you stuck the longer it is the frustration where you are trying to push this new experience away that keeps you stuck. Because in resistance in trying to force in trying to stop things. You keep yourself exactly where you are. The resistance means you are pulling in the opposite direction. Oops. I'll continue an alarm telling me to go somewhere. When you are pulling in the opposite direction, with resistance that slows things down from falling into place. So, now it's like the tide, you can't stop things from unfolding. So you can either do it kicking and screaming, in resistance in pulling in the other direction. Or you can, as I've heard described, you can drop the oars. Stop paddling upstream and let the boat naturally let the current naturally turn you around and go with their with every moment that comes up. Avoid looking into the future and creating a whole lot of different stories and ideas of what might happen. And just deal with the now the immediacy of what's going on. Coming back to presence. Because our human mind is an incredible meaning making machine can create so many different stories and projections. And imagine all these different scenarios and possibilities that could happen in the future. Generally, what happens is none of the ones you imagined happen, it unfolds in a way that you can't possibly have imagined in a much better way. And that process, like I said, will be much smoother and quicker, the more you can relax, hold your nerve, and allow things to play out how they are meant to play out. That doesn't mean you stop taking action. Getting into the flow of things doesn't mean stopping taking action is just not taking action in a forceful way against the current but instead taking aligned action. Is this something that I need to do? That's going to help me in the present moment to move forward in my next step towards where I'm heading. And if it's not, then it's a distraction. If it's an or if it's not, it's someone else's agenda.

Bring it back to what's most important for you where you're heading, and what's the next step and take that step and the next step will present. after that.

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