Sick Of The Fear? Step 1 - Turn Off The News

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Do you find yourself at different times experienced way too regularly, that angst that you get that fear in the pit of your stomach, maybe the solar plexus area maybe turns into anxiety or something else and it just keeps coming back and reoccurring. And it's exhausting. And it's debilitating. And it can keep you stuck for so long. And it can stop you from actually giving you the chance to heal to be able to regulate your emotions because you're in this constant state of fight flight or freeze. And one of the best things I learned early days of my healing and growth journey was to turn off the news. Now I was working in television at the time. So that was easier said than done. Because every TV and there was one on nearly every desk, every TV had something on and more than often there was news I still made a commitment to do that and still made a commitment to not absorb any of that fear that the News dot that news creates. It's designed to do that. Pain cells and they deliberately add more and more to appeal to that part of you that's kind of attracted to that. And it's not healthy. And I didn't realise just how detrimental impact it was having on my my whole being particularly mentally and emotionally. Particularly that fee response. And when I first learned that that was something you could do, I was like, Okay, well, I'm gonna give this a try. And it just changed everything because I wasn't I was no longer having like enough of my own stuff to deal with it without having to worry about all this other stuff that other people had going on. spoken to people and said, Ah, like, you know, what, what, are you still watching it all I need to keep up to date with what's going on? Why are because, you know, it's what everyone else is talking about.

And the people talking about things I don't know anything about. While I'm here, why do you need to know that? And I know if you're someone who perhaps has thought about this, but you know, it's find it hard to let go and ask well like, is that a daily conversations you want to be having with people who's gonna tell you what happened is that there were times where I did feel left out a different conversations at that time, while offering want to have those conversations anymore. And I was able to find new conversations, sometimes with new people as well. Sometimes it was just in that space, introducing new things to talk about that were far more positive. And what happens is when people realise over time that when you ask when I asked you about something in the news and I and you say back to them, Well, I don't watch it, or I don't see any of that or no I haven't seen that story. Then they start to learn that there's a new behaviour from you and it's time to change how they converse with you how they interact with you and they start finding different things to talk about. And as that happens, you start to create a new way of feeling and it is that powerful because I for me I used to listen Weiser watch all the crime shows all the crime like crime shows and like like real stories, crime shows as in the fictional ones, and then all Amy's feeling the same way it was actually just done the whole of sopranos which great series bind you but again, it had a pretty negative impact on my psyche because of the you know, I'm sure there's fair bit of it, that's not real, but it's probably a fair bit that is. And then I went to Sons of Anarchy, which is like, darker than the Sopranos. And I start having dreams about this stuff. And what this, this is just not right. But that was another one of those catalysts for change moments where I just looked at things from a different space. And when you remove the sort of negative aspects that keep you in a state, like fear or anxiety, then you can start addressing some of the underlying stuff that you've got going on, and to be able to release it and start that journey to be able to feel better. But if your whole being all of your emotions, is stuck in this place of always feeling this external, negativity, it's really hard to find the space to just deal with your own stuff. So if you're at that point, and you're looking to bring in more positivity, looking to heal, looking to find a circuit breaker, I can highly recommend this.

And it's something that I've taught so many of my clients, again, leaving them the choice, whether they do or they don't, the ones that have chosen to move in another direction, then they absolutely feel better for having done. So. Interestingly, if you go to social media, you can get caught in a whole lot of other patterns, which create the same impact. Now, any of that triggers you is something that needs to be released yourself. But like I said, if you're just doing this, where the emotion comes up, from time to time, and you're able to address it, then you're able to release it quickly. But if you're in this constant state of fear, then all you're doing is keeping yourself in the fear. So like I said, when you get to social media, there's a whole lot of other rabbit holes you can go down. And to me, like I see people talk are, you know, you get off mainstream media. And then at the same time, they're, they're completely absorbing themselves in fear of a different kind. It's just the same though, come back to self, deal with whatever you've got going on with you. Find ways to release, find ways to heal, to let go of more of this unresolved and unknown sitting within you. If this is something that, you know, is something you want to learn more about, if you know that you need to take some action now that that, you know, there are some things that you need to remove from your life. It's about making a commitment to yourself. So you can do that by writing it down, you can do that just by doing it verbally, we can do it by your actions, which is far more beneficial. So that's what I would ask of you today, choose one thing that's creating a negative impact in your life. And choose to remove it, start with something small, if that's helpful, and then move on to the next thing. And you'll find you'll have more space for improving you. And of course, the residual impact of that is that you will have more opportunity, more opportunity and more impact to be able to change what's going on in your external world, including your relationships as well. I'll speak to you next time.

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