When You Are Not Getting The Credits That You Deserve

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When you're not getting the credit you deserve, it becomes so frustrating. Combination of others not recognising your contribution, whether that's career or personal life, or worse, than taking credit for what you did, something you shared with them or something you gave to them. So frustrating to the point where we decide we make a conscious decision to not share in our fullest. To not give in are forced to not show up as the without at our best because we just can't keep going back to the world can't keep going and giving and giving and giving and not being given the credit. So what do we do about that? So we can't change how other people respond by forcing them to. But we can change and get a different response when we take responsibility. So what do I mean by that? We educate other people on how to treat us, or how to behave, behave towards us by how we behave. So if at the moment you're getting a certain reaction from people, it's time to change how you show up, or change who you show up to. So taking that responsibility to get a different response. So if you're just tolerating people stealing, or taking credit for what you're doing, well, then you'll continue to have that same outcome. If you're tolerating behaviour from others that's not authentic, that's not in integrity, well, then you're not being in your own integrity. I want to give you an example of one conversation I had with a client just this week. He was feeling like he was doing a lot of really awesome work this client of mine, and exactly what I was talking about not getting the credit, not feeling like the business and the leaders above him, were really understanding just how much he was bringing to the table, just how big an impact he was having on his team, their results and on the business in general. So one of the things that we talked about was like, Well, who knows what you do, like how many people actually know what it is you bring to the table? And then it was about identifying? Or who's the key person that you can nurture a relationship with, build a relationship, improve a relationship with? who's actually going to drag you along for the ride? What if you can fill them up with this incredible knowledge that they know they need from you, but do it in a way that not where it's a neediness of all but what about me, I've given you this, this and this, but from a place of, I just want to be of greater service and help this person get somewhere to different energy, because you're not doing it from a needy perspective. But you're doing it from an empowering perspective. You're not just the empowering yourself but you're empowering them to take you along for the ride.

And if you look at that from different perspective, maybe it's in a personal setting the same thing, can you not come from the perspective of what is it that I deserve? But instead I How can you empower those around you? So they can't help but give back to you drawn to something like you're your partner, but most intimate relationship? And how often have you been caught saying, Ah, you know, relationships, never what it used to be those early days of, you know, the sort of honeymoon period or any other of those moments, and maybe it's got a bit SameSite bit monotonous. And you might be placing that blame on someone else, your partner, for example, but how can you empower them? How can you fill them up? How can you help them to see how amazing they are? Not from a place of fixing, but just from helping them have whatever needs met that they have. So that they'll take you along for the ride. So you think about that, personal relationships, how often we get away from doing the things that used to work, those nice messages, those romantic moments, whatever it is for you. If you've done any of the reading around the love languages, it might be that your partner has a specific need around that whether it's physical touch acts of service. And the rest of them escaped me at the moment but but if you have a look at love languages, there's a website that you can get your you can do a quick quiz, I think it's free. Pretty sure it's free. Funny way to help people meet their needs, and again, do it from an empowerment place but not an Enos because neediness just gets a straight wall. And I like the feel of that. Like Don't come at me with your neediness. That's what the energy will come back to your but how can I be of unconditional and conditional giving unconditional love of empowerment? It's amazing what people will want to get more from you when you bring that empowerment, a power energy. When you think about and in a few different settings in your world, but they work. So instead of going out there and looking at where you're not getting credit, however, think about how can you change how you respond? How can you come with a different energy with a different focus with a different behaviour and everything's gonna change. Have an awesome day. Speak to you soon. I hope you enjoyed this episode of The Grief Code podcast. Thank you so much for listening. Please share it with a friend or family member that you know would benefit from hearing it too. If you are truly ready to heal your unresolved or unknown grief, let's chat. Email me at info at Ian Hawkins coaching.com You can also stay connected with me by joining the Grief Code community at Ian Hawkins coaching.com forward slash The Grief Code and remember, so that I can help even more people to heal. Please subscribe and leave a review on your favourite podcast platform