Reflecting Back On Your Life With Regrets

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it, and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the and Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this work, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

If you're like me, you've spent time in your later years, reflecting back on your life. Thinking about things like what happened at school, how you were at school. It's not it's natural, and it's normal. Looking back at some other place in your life, and maybe certain regrets you've had, particularly in those school years. Maybe you were bullied, maybe you didn't bully. Maybe you just do whatever you needed to do to survive. What are tough times of our life. I look back at those times as a teenager and so many good times. Yes, but man, it's a tough, tough time. Awkward going through so many different changes and dealing with all of the different challenges of hanging out with other humans going through the same jostling for position and trying to fit in and trying to feel safe by whatever means possible. So many of your patterns and conditioning that still play out today, they will formed in those days, they will form through, like I said, being bullied from maybe not treating people as nicely as you know, you should have interactions with your siblings, like I'm one of five. So I know many times fighting with my siblings and a way that I can train them in a way that like, I wouldn't wish on my worst enemies. But here I am doing it to my siblings. All Occasions of the appearance with close friends with not so close friends with people of the same age, whatever it is, it's really important that we don't still sit in that grief and regret of what you did wrong. Because when we start to repair ourself, enough, we start to give the other people in our life permission to do the same. So by taking our own journey, we empower others. So sure, there may be times where we've hurt other people in our life. That's their journey. It's not your decision to choose how much hurt for them, and how much it's still hurting for them. You can only control what you choose. So when you step into emotional intelligence, it's choosing to forgive yourself, and repair whatever needs to be repaired. So that you can just make peace with your past. So you can start looking through your own eyes, because you can't see things any other way. No matter how much you try to look at it from an Sumer other person's perspective and you and you worry about what impact you might have had on other people. The best way is still self empowerment. And self empowerment is a choice. You can sit in it or you can move out of it. Moving out of it is the self empowerment piece. It's the emotionally intelligent piece. It's taking responsibility to change a response from someone else we take personal responsibility. So every time you get caught in that moment, where you cringe, we look back at regret at some point in your life. What do you need to change within yourself?

What do you need to repair? What is the emotion that's sitting there? And take some time to breathe. Allow yourself to acknowledge it. And then it's about taking action. What action do I need to take to continue to repairing to empowering myself and to keep moving forward? It changes everything. So instead of having those same memories come up and eat away at you when you shake your head or your shutter or whatever it is that reaction you get. Making peace with each of those elements, and never having to deal with that particular moment again. That's empowerment. absolutely life changing. But it's a choice. Choose wisely.

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