Ep 378 - The Curse... & Gift Of Your Overthinking

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the Ian Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this word, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

So I've got a question for you. Where do you spend most of your overthinking what subject what content? What sort of stories? What's the pattern? What's the recurring theme. And why that's important is because often we ruminate on the same stories. Now, the upside of that is, because like I said in the title, sometimes it feels like a curse. But it's also a gift. The upside is we generally overthink on the areas that we are already really good at. What we often do, though, is that we don't see the value in what we do, because it challenges us constantly. But the reality is that the very thing that we are exceptionally good at. We strive to get better and better and better. And we're never satisfied with where we're at. So we always think that we're not good at it. And if you look back over your journey in that particular area, you'll know. And you'll see the infinitely better than where you were six months ago, two years ago, five years ago, 10 years ago. So if you're looking for more purpose, purpose is aligned to your overthinking trap to your overthinking pattern. I'll give you example. I've had a few conversations with people about exactly this this week. A client this morning, we were talking about the overthinking. And I explained this concept to her. And it was like I spent a lot of time thinking about my creativity, my my business and around legacy. I've just got her notes in front of me. And I was like, Yeah, because you want all of those to be better. But let's look back at the journey of those areas. And just see what you have created what you have already done in business, what legacy you already have left, pretty quickly saw just how much was already there. What a gift it was. Now, how does that have you looking at You're overthinking in a different way. The important thing then, and he uses what we talked about in the session was to create structure, and then have a way to extract that overthinking from her brain. So that it wasn't playing out continually. But instead using the structure to channel all of that amazing content that's been playing out in their head, channel that in to a structure that's gonna be beneficial, moving forward to her and all of the people that she crosses paths with, whether that's clients, family, friends, colleagues, anything. Oh, and we'll give you a bit of relief right now right now about your your, about your overthinking, because it's not necessarily a bad thing. So an example for me is I spent a lot of time thinking about people's emotional needs, about how they're feeling about how they could be feeling better, how they could improve, how I could be feeling better how I could improve all of these different areas. Again, never satisfied. Those areas are always thinking about how things could be better. But it's also the very thing that I help people with, right. It's also the very thing that I can teach people because I've gone on that journey myself. You've heard me talk before about purpose and how the very thing that we never want anyone else to go through is the thing that we will find, we will find purpose because we've been through it. We don't want anyone else to go have to go through what we went through, spend all that time going through it, when we know that there's a shortcut same thing with overthinking very much linked to purpose. And this is a new awareness for me. I haven't heard anyone else talk about this. So to me, that's pretty cool. Because I spend a lot of time overthinking around purpose. And around overthinking because there are two big things that I've been challenged with, and two of the most important things I help people with. So I find that pretty cool. And I'm just gonna give myself that praise. Like I've told you all before as well, making sure you take time to to acknowledge all that you've done. So, with your overthinking awareness, start noticing the signs, start noticing the patterns, start noticing the things that show up again and again. Have a think about what you've already done in that space. And then get out of your head with some structure. So journaling, brain dumping, talking with someone. Get it organized. And the overthinking will reduce almost immediately. Hope that helps free that overthinking, and get yourself the clarity, focus and structure to move forward.

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