Ep 375 - How Are Others Seeing You?

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the Ian Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this work, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

How do people see you? What is it you project out to the world? Do you know you are quite intelligent. So you talk with big words and big concepts. Not saying things wrong with that. But are you showing people the real you? Are you showing off all the things that you have your material wealth, your richness?

Do you talk about that stuff more than the average person

you tend to focus on your physical appearance. And get too caught in that rather than letting people see who you really are. When you present to the world in this way, you're not letting people see who you really are. You're not getting to know people at a deeper level and they're not getting to know you either. So it's a shift in focus. Instead of worrying about what can people see how valuable I am, how wealthy I am, how smart I am, how intelligent I am. Because that's what how you were valued. Or you had shown to you as a child is valuable. Think about the intelligence thing if you just constantly gone Oh, you're so smart, you're so intelligent. You think that's what valuable if you kept experiencing your parents showing you that what was valuable and we got the next thing and here's the next thing, like as the value in life, well then that's the pattern that you repeat. And if physical appearance, you are valued for that, then again, he'll become the pattern. And there's a pressure involved in all of those because it takes work to keep up those levels, which you know, Rob But what if people got to see the real you want What if you showed off your pride in yourself. Show people your confidence, your self assurance, your integrity, your calm. When people will be able to connect with you then or they get to know about you then how fantastic with a connection with them be then. So let them see your character, your personality who you truly are. Your true value. Your emotional intelligence, your ability to listen. Your ability to be caring your creativity what you know is valuable that you know what they think is valuable. What you think because the more you believe it, the more they'll believe it. The more doubt you have around what is your true value or in your personality. The person you are your identity. The more data you have, the more doubt they will have the more belief you have in it, the more they will believe in it.

So let this world see who you truly are and share that. Let the important people in your world. See that? here that I open up to this Everything will improve, including, ironically, your ability to, for people to see your intelligence, your wealth, your knowledge, your physical beauty, but not in ways that you think. They'll see the richness of who you are. They'll see how valuable you are. They'll see your intelligence, more than your ability to regurgitate facts and knowledge. But they'll see it in the wisdom that you bring, that's at a whole other level, because it comes out to you. So naturally, people are already looking at you in a way that they wish they had more of what you brought to the table. You know, that's true, too, because you do it the same with other people. You're like, Oh, I wish I had more of that in my life. grass is always greener. Hmm. Especially when it comes to personality. The other challenge is that the thing is, the thing that you are so good at can also be a curse. And I, we go in that into that into the next episode. But at this point, it's just about you, tuning in to your true self, show people that confidence in you that self assurance, and integrity and ability to be calm. Those softer skills that will take you everywhere in life and have people drawn to you, you can have those relationships that are built on something way beyond those surface level stuff that I talked about at the start.

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