I Should Have Backed Myself

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfilment and contribution, to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it, and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the and Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this work, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

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It so much inspiration from the music or listen to sales that really remind me of my childhood and inspire me and bring me joy. Anyway, this song was listening to this week, called Amsterdam boy, the living end.

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And there's a line in there that said, I put all that I had on a losing horse should have backed myself instead. And I remember hearing it. And I've heard this so many times. But I heard it in a way that I hadn't heard before. And it's like, oh my goodness, how often

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do we all put our hopes in something external that will come and help us out of a situation. And if you look at that particular that words to that song, like gambling on something in the heartbeat of make us feel better

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as an avoidance tactic from actually doing what we need to do for us.

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So my question to you is,

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what losing losses you backing?

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And where should you be backing yourself instead? Where should you be having the courage to

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step up? And see how far you can go? Wish? Where are you?

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Allowing yourself to be knocked off course by someone else?

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Are you giving your power away? Because you're leaving your future in the hands of other people's ideas, thoughts, other people's ideas of what's best for your life?

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These are great questions to ask. Because when we can realise that if we take responsibility, and we started backing ourselves, and we start realising that, if it if it is to be it's up to me, write that

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10 word 20 letter sentence, if it is to be it is up to me, back yourself, see how far you can go. Invest in yourself. Always looking back recently at how much I've invested in myself on the personal growth journey in the last 11 years. And it's nearly $100,000 that you might listen to that and think That's madness. That's paid itself back in terms of the

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financial opportunities I've had since then.

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But more importantly than that,

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it's paid itself back 100 times in what it's given me in terms of my peace of mind,

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the sense of calm, the sense of fulfilment, the ability to feel joy, to release so much of the pain and anger and anguish that I was carrying the physical pain that released as I continued to grow myself.

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So I've been backing myself for 11 years after

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I hadn't for the previous 38

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Two years I bet two and 49.

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I know what I'd rather

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when I was putting my everything I had on

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other people and as it turned out, the losing horse was actually just giving my power away.

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To want to change from that to backing myself, knowing that I can change my circumstances by

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investing in me and in yes financially, but it's investing physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, energetically, holistically, backing myself and doing the best that I can.

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Because if grief has taught me anything

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is that

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you only get one crack at this lifetime.

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And it's not forever.

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And if you haven't already, there are moments where you realise that you're spinning the wheels. And

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it's not forever.

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And there's so much more to be had.

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I can remember dad's funeral, thinking about all that he's achieved and all the nice things people were saying about him and all he done. I'm like, man, I've done none of those things.

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That was my

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moment of change to back myself.

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You've had your moment of challenge, you've had the pain. Don't keep waiting for another one. It's time for action that only you can control that.

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Back yourself.

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